4 Hot Tips to Attract Love
1. SIGNAL: If you are a woman, give a nonverbal signal when you’re interested in a man. Prolonged eye contact can bring someone all the way across a crowded room. Despite what the bestseller THE RULES, says (let him make the first move), studies show that men generally will not approach a woman until they’ve gotten some signal of interest, whether it’s a nod, a smile or simply a friendly eye gaze.
And no matter what gender you are, seeking a connection, being curious and warm toward someone makes you irresistible.
2. BE YOURSELF. Some experts say that you need to act this way or look that way, but studies don’t bear out the notion of fitting yourself into some general mold of desirability. Reasons for attraction are so varied and so individual-specific that your best bet is to just be who you are, the most positive YOU with confidence, and the person who is attracted to your qualities will not be able to see past you.
One formerly single mom client who is now on my wall of weddings was always told she was too quiet and withdrawn to find love. As she did my work, an uncle showed up to pick up a child at her house from a playdate. He was taken with her and loved what a good listener she was.
It took him 45 minutes to collect his nephew and leave. He made sure he had her number before he drove away. The rest is history – the two tied the knot 18 months later. Not only did this show that love would come to her door but also that she never had to be something she was not. Her new husband adores her contemplative, sensitive nature. They’re a perfect fit.
3. FORGET LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT and give an emotional bond and the ensuing chemistry time to develop. Studies overwhelmingly show that physical attraction levels vary between the first meeting and a deeper bonding time. Either the attraction grows or it peters out as the couple get to know each other. Many peopledevelop crushes with repeated exposure to an individual who they at first didn’t find attractive which explains the phenomenon of office romances.
Just have fun this summer, enjoy flirting and bonding, and as you give love a chance to dawn, it will.
4. DO WHAT FITS YOU. If you’re not the bar or on-line type, don’t force yourself to visit bars or do the on-line dating thing. Studies show that the way people meet are so varied that you can’t predict when love will happen. Chances are that if you don’t like bars, you’re not going to meet someone compatible in one. Better to do what feels natural to you and trust that love will find you.