Q: Kathryn, I did your course and now, I’ve finally met someone. It’s scary because he’s everything I’ve wanted. I find myself getting nervous, thinking that it’s too perfect, maybe too good to be true?!
He’s the one who voluntarily took his profile off matchmaking websites and wants to see me all the time. We text all day long. I find myself waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Is this too good to be true? What can I do?! I’m just so scared that I’ll blow it or he will go away. Please help!
A: Congrats! You’ve done this process well and now you’re manifesting. This is what typically happens with people who do my work? Why?
Because when you find your soulmate, it’s beyond what you’ve ever experienced and it can take some getting used to.
I have a client experiencing a similar situation now, and I’m having to do a lot of handholding with her to get her through her own jitters.
Here’s what I suggest to navigate this fun, courtship period.
1. Don’t cry soulmate yet. It’s fine to be cautious and give it the time it deserves to relish and make sure it’s the right guy. So far, so good, though, and congrats on that!
2. Do go slowly. If he’s really your One, then he will be willing to wait for you to proceed at your own pace. Besides, it’s fun to draw out this stage.
3. Remember to not put all of your eggs in one basket until it’s a very solid commitment that has lasted a while. Regardless of how this relationship ends up, it’s a huge manifestation and big thumbs up that you’re almost there.
4. Take this as a template. Get used to it going this well as your due. You’re breaking new ground, and I’m proud of you.
5. Finally, your most important job right now is to get up to speed with having a hot guy be enthused about you. If you were up to speed with it, you would not have jitters. You’d enjoy it, and you’d take it as your due. So our most important task is for you to accept your good and get used to it.
In my private practice, getting people up to speed — conforming to their good — is a major step we take. When you get there, it can never be taken away from you, and you’ll only go on into more and more of what you want.
Great job! I’m blessing you for going all the way into the soulmate love you want so much. You’re doing quite well.
I’m sending you love & support!