Q: Kathryn, I’ve done so many things to welcome in love. I don’t know what my problem is but I must be doing something wrong, because I’m still waiting. And waiting.
I have been on so many dates (not great ones) and go to a lot of parties. But I never meet anyone interesting.
I just want to shout “Where is my soulmate?!” It is very hard for me to relax and have any faith at all.
Do you have suggestions about what I can do? I’m just at a loss and ready to give up.
A: This is a common problem I deal with when clients are not manifesting easily.
Here are some thoughts:
1. Impatience is a sign that you’ve tried to make something happen before doing the inner work. When you are soulmate-ready, you don’t experience impatience.
2. Waste of Time As my work emphasizes, spending time magnetizing love from the inside ensures you’re not just spinning your wheels taking fruitless action.
3. Stay Home! Remember I’m the only dating coach who says “you don’t have to get out there” and “if you don’t get out much, (s)he’ll have a wreck in your yard.” That’s because if you are laying the groundwork internally, you may not have to take a single action for love to show up for you. It’s why my book is called Love Will FIND YOU. And it’s why we have so many love stories from this work that involve meeting your soulmate while staying home. Don’t exhaust yourself trying to make every single event. Better to stay home & do a Soul Call.
4. Only a Dab of Patience In my book, I extol the virtue of patience in finding love. But you shouldn’t need that much patience. If you are not manifesting right away, you may have a block or delay. Common delays are cynicism, hanging on to someone from your past, self-esteem issues, lack of faith, a bad pattern or tendency to settle. All of these delays can be easily, even instantly overcome.
5. Instant Manifestation Once you pinpoint your delay, it’s much easier to release it. As you do, you will find love knocking at your door, seemingly out of the blue.